My journey to become myself

𝑰𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒂 𝒔𝒑𝒐𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒆𝒐𝒖𝒔 𝒅𝒆𝒄𝒊𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏

Coaching is a profession that has brought a lot of rumor and scandals in Vietnam. My healing journey started a few years ago when I realized I had been facing depression for about 2 years and turned to some psychiatrists and therapists in Vietnam. It was not that efficient at the beginning. After rescuing from an extremely toxic relationship, everyone around me at that moment knew how horrible it was, I finally could find a suitable therapist. It totally changed my life. Hilariously when I had just recovered, many people need my help and seek for advices. Also, during this period, some people suggested that I am capable of coaching and I should consider becoming a coach. I thought that the idea was beyond imagination. I thought I would never become a coach because I was focusing on master’s degree graduation to continue my marketing career. In addition, with the prejudices about the coaching profession that I had previously that will be mentioned below, I have absolutely no intention of becoming a coach, I am not interested at all. Anytime getting those suggestions I could just laugh and said that I would never be a coach. However now I admit that I was wrong when sitting here writing these lines.

𝑰 𝒖𝒔𝒆𝒅 𝒕𝒐 𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒋𝒖𝒅𝒊𝒄𝒆𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝑪𝒐𝒂𝒄𝒉 𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒆𝒓

Yes, this sense of judgment was even stronger when one of my bosses abandoned all types of his career to become a coach. It was exactly the type that NLP exhorts hundreds of people in the room with affirmation to get rich quickly. At that time, I had extreme prejudices that "anyone who is unsuccessful in another career would become a coach", "whoever is stuck must be a coach", "coaching is like multi-level marketing, like cheating". But when I really get to experience of being coached, I felt differently. Not all coaches are flashy on stage, not all coaches "look like multi-level marketing". The coaching profession is very diversified, the coach market has all kinds of choices for everyone to choose. There are business coaches for the high level demand, the managers and CEOs are coached by those all the time; or there are health coaches, who are there for nutrition or sports training; some other have spiritual coaches, or parent coaches... Excluding coaches who only work for money, I find the coaching profession significantly humane. Especially when my coaches help me immensely in spiritual development and personal development, I treasure them more than ever, as well as all other healers, therapists, coaches...who are helping and supporting people day by day, who let them out of extreme deadlock.

But what is my greater motivation to become a coach? 

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𝑯𝒆𝒍𝒑𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒏𝒔𝒇𝒐𝒓𝒎 𝒊𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒎𝒐𝒔𝒕 𝒊𝒎𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈

Now, after I have been upgraded a lot, becoming a much better version than many years ago, I realize where my true values really stay. I remember even if I make a lot of money, have enough labels like managers of this company and that, I don't feel proud and boastful to anyone. Because I know behind the “big label”, how many struggles, hardships there were at work every day, that feeling of facing jobs I didn’t like, with people I didn’t want to contact. The feeling of closing a contract of hundreds of millions USD or earning thousand USD commission in a split second can’t not be compared with the feeling each time I complete a coaching session. Because when I help others, the first is I know that I can definitely help them from my bloody experience.

Secondly, I do it from my heart, so I'm not tired because I aware about the value. The value that I bring to them can help them keep on their journey, thereby helping many others like I have gone through. Very few people know a paradox that when they know how to enjoy life's happiness, they will do other things 10 times better than what they are trying to do. Even when they believe that they are only happy only when they have enough money, only when they have money that they wish, then they can be happy. They never know that the opposite way is when they are happy, they can make numbers of money many times greater than the amount they wanted. And just being a more peaceful person, it will help the whole family and those around him/her to become peaceful.

Anyone who has been friends with me for a long time knows that I had a collection of dramas. If fashion brands have seasonal collections I also have a collection of seasonal trauma; from childhood crisis or abandonment, the divorce of parents, the absence of father, my mother was also well-known as hard and strict back then, to the emotional breakdown like being betrayed or stolen in the relationship; my own divorce, experience of domestic and mental abuse in a toxic relationship, financial hardship... I had them all. Before, I was quite guilty about those things and let the past control me for too long, now I aware traumas are my strength for me to help others.

To come out openly like this, I also had to go through the fear of not being good enough, people’s judgment, my own comparison with other coaches. But that's okay, thanks for that fear that I know realize one thing: only when I actually walked through a dark forest so many times that I could lead others to find the way out, not just based on a map. So I believe there will be people out there who need me based on what I have. Then anyone, who is facing the following problems:

• Feeling abandoned

• Family conflict

• Toxic relationship (Physical/emotional/mental abuse...)

• Recovering after suicidal intentions

• Divorce

• Lack of motivation

• The feeling of losing yourself

• Desire to have a brilliant love life

- And several other issues and a desire to become a better version of yourself

Believe there will always be a way out and get all the help you wish. We can schedule a 30' free call to see if I can assist you or not.

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You don't have to be lonely and won't be alone on this journey

My project JOURNEY TO BE ME project is a dedicated one with the intention of honoring all the people who had great transformation in their lives, whose stories inspire everyone, who are very ordinary people in life but not trivial. They are all worthily recognized to be heroes in their own lives. We often assume that these people appear on movies, medias, news, charity programs, or celebrities etc. but not always. Through this project, I want to bring a new perspective that you do not need to value below social standards, you just need to overcome your own difficulties, overcome yourself and your darkness to be better version for yourself and those around you. At the same time, I also want to help others who wish to have the similar transformation, help them realize their own worth and live a more meaningful life.

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